Tips: THE_TOP_FOURTEEN_UN-WRITTEN_RULES___BE CIVILIZED

  • Don’t call someone more than twice continuously. If they don’t pick up your calls, that means they have something more important to attend to, or they are not near their phones at that time.

 

  • When your colleague/ classmate/ team-mate, neighbor, gets shouted at,  please don’t stare at them. It makes the moment twice awkward.

 

  • When someone drops something on the floor by mistake,  drops food from the plate or doesn’t know how to use a knife/fork don’t stare at them. The same goes for people sneezing, coughing or even letting out an uncontrollable fart. They are all involuntary actions.

 

  • Always skip using the washroom beside the occupied one. It makes it uneasy for the person in the occupied washroom as well as yourself if you occupy the one right next to theirs.

 

  • Return money that you have borrowed even before the other person remembers that he lent it to you, be it #100, #100,000 or #1, 000,000. It shows your integrity and character. Same goes with borrowed umbrellas, pens, lunch boxes or any other item you borrow.

 

  • Never order the expensive dish on the menu when someone is treating you to lunch/dinner. If possible, ask them to order their choice of food for you.

 

  • Don’t ask awkward questions like, ‘Oh, so you aren’t married yet?’ Or ‘Don’t you have kids?’ or ‘Why didn’t you buy a house?’ For crying out loud, it isn’t your problem, please! Again, it can embarrass or devastate the person. Have common sense!

 

  • When someone makes a wrong investment and loses their money, don’t add fuel to the flames by saying ‘I knew this would happen. You should have listened to me’. Don’t make failure seem worse for anyone.

 

  • Always open the door for the person coming behind you. It doesn’t matter if it is a guy or a girl. You don’t grow small by treating someone well in public or by being kind.

 

  • Wear earphones when traveling on a subway, car or bus. Don’t make others taste your choice of good/bad music. Don’t put them through the pain of listening to music under compulsion, no matter how good you think the song or sound is. Always assume they are not in the mood for it.

 

  • Don’t visit anyone/knock on people’s doors unannounced, irrespective of how close, younger or junior they are to you. Call them up and have an appointment, some days or at least a day to your visit, except it is an unavoidable emergency, that probably involves a one -on -one seeing and not a phone talk.

 

  • When you knock on people’s door, wait for a response before going in. Knocking means, “can I come in?” and not, “I am coming in”. Get a response from inside the house, before you know what next to do. No response? Then go back.

 

  • When you stretch out your hand to give or take a handshake, always, always, accompany it with a smile and a direct look into the other person’s eyes. Make your handshake firm, especially for guys.

 

  • The most important one! Don’t swipe left or right when someone hands over their phone to you for viewing a particular picture, except he /she permits you to. And also, don’t browse through their messages and call lists. People’s phones and the contents are their private property. Learn to respect that.