Sunmbo Adeoye at Becoming Conference 2016
For Sunmbo Adeoye, wife to Pastor David Adeoye and mother to 2 of Tuface Idibia’s children, the experience is the best teacher but it is always a beautiful thing if one can tell beautiful stories off such experiences.
She was featured in a recent interview with Punch Newspaper. where she shared her story from being with the Nigerian artiste to become the wife of a pastor – a general overseer.
Read excerpt of the interview:
Sunmbo shared on how she met Tuface Idibia…
I met him when I was a student of Yaba College of Technology. I had just lost my dad and my mum was living in America. For someone who was a daddy’s girl, I needed love. This was the only person that was showing me love at that time. I feel I had that experience so that other young girls would not make the same mistake.
Talking about the first pregnancy for the iconic artiste, she said:
I was 24 when I fell pregnant the first time and having to deal with ‘shame’. When I got pregnant the first time, I approached the pastor of the church I was attending then and he brought me out before the church and judged me. I was asked to go and bring the father of my unborn child so we could be joined together. I brought a different person and we got married at the registry.
Being a single mom at the age of 25:
Everything fell apart when I had a child who looked nothing like him and my mom came back from America to ask who gave my hand out in marriage because she was not a part of it. I had to walk out of the marriage which I arranged by myself. I moved back home and by age 25 I was already a single mom and a divorcee. There was so much shame and reproach.
Sunmbo returned to Tuface and lived with him for 3 years after she decided to go with the idiom ‘the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t. It was during the course that the second pregnancy happened, she said:
It was not a bed of roses while I was there because I was trying to put together what was not supposed to be. I think we broke up in 2009 after I had the second baby. There were other women who were also going to have babies for him around that time. I came to my senses like the prodigal son and I was so broken. I think my baby daddy was out of the country that fateful day when I returned from work and I packed all my things plus that of my children, and I went back to my parents’ home.
She talked about how she met her husband:
It is so funny because he had always been my pastor. He is someone I always went to for mentorship, so when he came across as wanting to be my husband, I was a bit scared. Even though I knew I was asking God for a husband, a father, friend, and mentor, I did not know it was my pastor that was going to fit in because nobody was praying for his wife to die. When he made his intentions known, I thought maybe if I stayed away from a church, he would forget about me. I realized that whenever I stayed away from a church, I would lose my peace. I was a committed member of the church as well as the praise team lead. Then, I started praying and fasting. I began to ask God if it was what He wanted for me. I knew my past and I told God I was going to drop my tall, dark and handsome standard for whatever He wanted for me.
Talking about life with her husband, Sunmbo Adeoye said she is a better person:
It is a privilege that comes with a lot of glory and responsibilities. It also comes with a lot of glamour and commitment. It comes with its own challenges and God has equipped us to handle everything. This is not the Sunmbo that got married to Pastor Adeoye three years ago. I am a better person and I am now refined.
Read full interview-click here